Well, the good news is that Nate (and the rest of us) made it 24 hours with no paci! He did cry for a bit longer last night when we put him in his crib, but once he was asleep he didn't wake up all night and he didn't need it in the morning either! YAY. Get rid of paci- check.
On the "failure" tip, I was overwhelmed last night with trying to divide my attention between the two of them. They did not want to play with their toys or read their books, they both wanted to be held.. by me.. all the time.. all night. All I got all night were little faces staring up and me, arms out-stretched, saying "uh-uh-uh-ma-ma-ma-ma". It breaks my heart and dang near brings me to tears that it seems neither of them get what they need from me. Even when I get down on the floor with them, they crawl on me and one gets upset when I love on the other one, or even when I try to love on both at the same time. They slap at each other or push each other away and I feel like I am constantly trying to show them "equal" affection so they feel loved and don't resent each other (or ME, God forbid!) :).
What am I supposed to do when they are literally fighting for attention?
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3 comments:
Ugh! This is also a daily worry of mine. I just hold them both as far away from each as I can and love on both as much as I can. I have to remind myself that they are getting what they need. Yeah, they learn to share a little earlier than most other kids, but it won't do any permanent damage. Hang in there. You are a wonderful mommy.
You're NO failure! I wish I had some advice for dividing your time between 2, but I can sympathize because I feel like I don't even have enough time or energy for 1! You're a great mommy, so don't fret about this. I also think the hitting is just because of their ages right now- at least they're hitting each other, Logan just hits me! We've been hating this "hitting" stage and he is the master of temper tantrums lately. Hang in there, it will get better!
Don't you dare worry or feel like those precious kiddos aren't getting what they need from you. You are an amazing mother, and both Nate and Lilly know they are loved by so many people. They are just at that age that all toddlers get to. This super attachment phase will fade faster than you realize, and then you'll be crying for the opposite reason! :) Hang in there!
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